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Girl’s handbag and the modern romance

This is something I see a lot in Asian country. I even had the experience of having my handbag carried by my male companion at the time (I didn’t ask for it). I found it a little bit awkward, not really because of a man carrying a feminine bag, but more about the fact that I was capable of carrying my handbag. I can understand if the man would offer his help when his lady was carrying multiple bags, heck I’d even offer to my partner and my girlfriends if they’re carrying more than one bag, or if I know that one of the bags is heavy. With my partner it’s the opposite, I had to ask for his help, which in a way pissed me off. He saw I was carrying something heavy, it doesn’t cost a thing to offer help, but at the same time I knew he saw me as capable of taking care of myself. Sure, I’m not the girl in high heels type, I’m more of a girl in boots type, and I can fight, but that didn’t mean that I don’t appreciate being treated like a girly girl once in awhile.

However, this post isn’t really about man carrying their lady’s bag, but it was about manners, courtesy, gestures, courtship (if that even still exist). I know it’s a thing of the past, but I don’t see a reason of why it shouldn’t be practiced. In my home country I find that people have this sort of unrealistic ideals about their partners (I’m talking about the pre-marriage couples or soon to be couples). Too often I came across someone who poured his/her heart out for someone they don’t even know that well just to have a chance of going out with the person. I think it’s sweet (though sometimes it could be too much). But my point is, these days, I found the lack of romance in modern society.

A few months back I admitted to my partner that I was hoping that he would have asked me out on a date when we just started seeing each other. But that never came. Dinners at restaurants are not the same thing as a date. I told him that I was really hoping he would properly ask me to go out on a date with him, then being picked up, and have the experience of being wooed. Being asked out on a date is a flattering experience, which only happened twice in my history of love life. Once by my ex (who turned out to be a manipulative jerk), and second by one of my closest friend (which I turned down, I couldn’t see him as more than good friend). I don’t think dates happen often these days anymore, which is quite a shame.

I guess I’m a hopeless romantic who believes in love at first sight and prince charming on a white horse (not literally of course). On anniversaries, I don’t need fancy things, I’d be more than happy with chocolates or little gestures. It’s not the materials that I’m after, but it was the thought of being remembered and that the day of us being united is celebrated.

I think romance is almost dead these days, well movies don’t count – I thought I should just get it out there. If you have experience of being wooed that you’d like to share, please do :)


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Posted by on September 14, 2011 in Attitude, love life


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Things that bug me

Well… this has been bugging me for quite some time now. Too many times I cringed at the sight of women dressed inappropriately and proud of it, little did they know that many of us who happened to see it think that it was disgusting. Sometimes it was the case of an epic wardrobe malfunction, but most time it was just the fact that too many women these days don’t know how to appreciate themselves.

In short, here are my thoughts:

In the office – Ladies, please know that in an office environment, anything above your mid-thigh is too short. If you’re a creative or fashion industry it may be more forgiving, but in an office, it’s unacceptable.

While you’re out – if it’s cold, wear warm clothes! Don’t stroll in a mini skirt (or was it a belt?) and skimpy top on a high heels then complained it was cold. There is nothing sexy about that. Other women who know how to dress appropriately would look 10 times sexier than those who wear minimal clothing.

Body type – just because it looks good on others (or on the manikin), doesn’t mean that it would look good on you. Shop for your type.

Attitude – one can look good and attractive until she speaks. If you look good but have a bitchy attitude, then your hard work will just go to waste. The world doesn’t resolve around you. Be nice to people… don’t dominate conversations, let others speak and be heard. If you don’t agree with something, don’t force your opinion on them, just acknowledge that there are other point of views other than yours.

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Posted by on September 6, 2011 in Attitude


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