A short hello

So, again, sorry for not writing on this blog for so long. My other commitments and activities took most of my time. Eventhough I was never planning to update this blog on a scheduled regular basis, I was at least planning to write on it more often. 

 

I started writing fiction and fan-fiction again, and honestly I found it very addictive once I decided to post them online. When I had people telling me how much they were looking forward to the next chapter, I was feeling the same, if not more. I had this anticipation on the pit of my stomach, about what would happen to these characters, and where would they end up. I’d try to post stories I’ve finished writing before (but not limited to), and sometimes I found some comments to be inspiring and ended up changing the course of the story. 

 

At the moment I’m writing a Sci-fi fiction, something I had never taken on outside of Fanfiction world, and I found it super challenging to set it up. Whatever the challenge, I still enjoyed it. The writing takes me away from the everyday stress that seems to be persistent at the moment. 

 

So that’s what I have been up to lately, I thought I’d just pop in and say a quick hello to let you know that I haven’t forgotten about this blog :)

 

Have a lovely day everyone :)

 

- Fi

 

Happy Easter 2012

Hello all, apologies for the absence… I’ve been very busy, but I’d like to take this opportunity to say Happy Easter to you all. God bless.

-Fi

 

Pedestrians vs Drivers

It was rather early in the morning and I haven’t had much sleep last night, so no, I wasn’t really in a good mood, but what I’m about to write about shouldn’t require a foul mood to get annoyed about anyway.

As a pedestrian I hate it when drivers ignore the rules, going through the red light when it was green for us to cross, not stopping at pedestrian crossing, tooting when we were in the middle of the crossing when the light turned flashing, or simply not indicating when they were turning and we were crossing, then expect us to read their minds and get annoyed at us. But as a pedestrian, I also hate it when other pedestrians walk like they own the road and expect drivers to make way for them. Look around, people, cross when it’s safe to, don’t just step foot on the road! Too often I saw people ignoring the cross light and got annoyed at cars who were actually obeying their rules. News about pedestrian got hit by a bus came up far too often, but it didn’t seem to make others be more careful.

Awhile back I saw this girl at the lights, waiting to cross. When light goes red for the cars, she started crossing, not knowing that the other lane would have a turn before pedestrian light turned green (clearly she wasn’t from around the area as she wasn’t familiar with the lights), but instead of going back to the side of the road, she stood in the middle of the road, looking straight at the truck that was turning, most probably expecting the driver to just go around her while she stood on his lane. It took her quite awhile before she sheepishly walked backwards and cleared off the road.

People work hard to create road rules and codes to make it work and safer for both pedestrians and drivers, but please remember that we are responsible for our own safety (and others who are directly affected by our actions).

Be safe on the road, people! Have a lovely day :)

-Fi

Image from stock.xchng by CDWaldi

 

Girl’s handbag and the modern romance

This is something I see a lot in Asian country. I even had the experience of having my handbag carried by my male companion at the time (I didn’t ask for it). I found it a little bit awkward, not really because of a man carrying a feminine bag, but more about the fact that I was capable of carrying my handbag. I can understand if the man would offer his help when his lady was carrying multiple bags, heck I’d even offer to my partner and my girlfriends if they’re carrying more than one bag, or if I know that one of the bags is heavy. With my partner it’s the opposite, I had to ask for his help, which in a way pissed me off. He saw I was carrying something heavy, it doesn’t cost a thing to offer help, but at the same time I knew he saw me as capable of taking care of myself. Sure, I’m not the girl in high heels type, I’m more of a girl in boots type, and I can fight, but that didn’t mean that I don’t appreciate being treated like a girly girl once in awhile.

However, this post isn’t really about man carrying their lady’s bag, but it was about manners, courtesy, gestures, courtship (if that even still exist). I know it’s a thing of the past, but I don’t see a reason of why it shouldn’t be practiced. In my home country I find that people have this sort of unrealistic ideals about their partners (I’m talking about the pre-marriage couples or soon to be couples). Too often I came across someone who poured his/her heart out for someone they don’t even know that well just to have a chance of going out with the person. I think it’s sweet (though sometimes it could be too much). But my point is, these days, I found the lack of romance in modern society.

A few months back I admitted to my partner that I was hoping that he would have asked me out on a date when we just started seeing each other. But that never came. Dinners at restaurants are not the same thing as a date. I told him that I was really hoping he would properly ask me to go out on a date with him, then being picked up, and have the experience of being wooed. Being asked out on a date is a flattering experience, which only happened twice in my history of love life. Once by my ex (who turned out to be a manipulative jerk), and second by one of my closest friend (which I turned down, I couldn’t see him as more than good friend). I don’t think dates happen often these days anymore, which is quite a shame.

I guess I’m a hopeless romantic who believes in love at first sight and prince charming on a white horse (not literally of course). On anniversaries, I don’t need fancy things, I’d be more than happy with chocolates or little gestures. It’s not the materials that I’m after, but it was the thought of being remembered and that the day of us being united is celebrated.

I think romance is almost dead these days, well movies don’t count – I thought I should just get it out there. If you have experience of being wooed that you’d like to share, please do :)

-Fi

 

Things that bug me

Well… this has been bugging me for quite some time now. Too many times I cringed at the sight of women dressed inappropriately and proud of it, little did they know that many of us who happened to see it think that it was disgusting. Sometimes it was the case of an epic wardrobe malfunction, but most time it was just the fact that too many women these days don’t know how to appreciate themselves.

In short, here are my thoughts:

In the office – Ladies, please know that in an office environment, anything above your mid-thigh is too short. If you’re a creative or fashion industry it may be more forgiving, but in an office, it’s unacceptable.

While you’re out – if it’s cold, wear warm clothes! Don’t stroll in a mini skirt (or was it a belt?) and skimpy top on a high heels then complained it was cold. There is nothing sexy about that. Other women who know how to dress appropriately would look 10 times sexier than those who wear minimal clothing.

Body type – just because it looks good on others (or on the manikin), doesn’t mean that it would look good on you. Shop for your type.

Attitude – one can look good and attractive until she speaks. If you look good but have a bitchy attitude, then your hard work will just go to waste. The world doesn’t resolve around you. Be nice to people… don’t dominate conversations, let others speak and be heard. If you don’t agree with something, don’t force your opinion on them, just acknowledge that there are other point of views other than yours.

 

Public toilet

Let’s face it, I won’t be the only person who hates public toilet. One of my biggest fears of the public toilet is of hygiene, now based on what I’ve seen on TV, most public toilets are actually cleaner than average home toilets because they are cleaned and maintained more regularly than home ones (those lazy ones). If it wasn’t thanks to my eczema, I would clean my bathroom and toilet once in one or two days. I just couldn’t do the activity as often as I’d like to because it would hurt too much for my skin.

Well, here’s the list of reasons why I hate the public toilet so much:

1. Smell

It’s either the smelly toilet or the overly fragranced room which would almost guarantee a sneezing spell once I walked into the room.

2. Lack of hooks

C’mon!!! It’s a freaking public toilet! Don’t you think people would have bags or jackets in their hands???? So I’d say a hook behind the toilet door is standard and must have.

3. Small space

I wonder if they expect people to be tiny or something, I’m a size XS and I still find it hard to move around certain toilets sometimes. It felt like whoever built the space have forgotten to put public toilet and decided that the little corner in the room could be made into a couple of restrooms.

4. Unrealistic basin space

Not only the room could be tiny, but the sink too! You hardly have enough space to put both hands under the sink, yet alone washing your hands thoroughly under the running water!

5. Lack of paper towel / the non-existent hand dryer

No, towel will not suffice. If you think about it, how many people would be using the restroom? I am NOT sharing hand towel with strangers. Supply of paper towel is crucial, or hand dryer at least. Now, I’m not a fan of the warm hand dryer simply because I find it hurting my skin if I my eczema flared up.

6. Toilet paper dispenser

Sure, they are low maintenance, but did you think of where you’re putting it or did you run out of space before fitting it into the room and decided that right next to the toilet will have to do, despite the awkward positions plus the twist and turns people have to do to get to the freaking thing.

7. The toilet paper

Ok, we can’t be picky when in public toilet, but at least get tissue paper that isn’t so hard to rip!!! Trust me, you’d end up saving more! Not only you’d decrease the chances of having papery mess on the floor because people get pissed off it won’t rip, but you’d save more paper because people won’t take too much toilet paper from being too hard to rip.

8. No trash can

What kind of toilet don’t have trash can?? These days they have sanitary disposal units in women’s or unisex toilet, but doesn’t mean that they can get rid of the trash cans. There are other things other than tampon and pads that people need to throw out while in the restrooms, you know!

Now let’s move on to the other toilet users’ annoying habits that pissed me off the most:

9. Too lazy to flush

Some retards were just too f***in lazy to push a button to flush the toilet, very very very inconsiderate and selfish! It’s a communal facility, take care of it!

10. Too ignorant to clean up after oneself

So you’ve made a mess in the public restroom, then clean up after yourself, you dumb ass! As I said on my previous point, it is a communal facility, you aren’t the only one who’s using it, so be considerate!

11. The impatient goer

I was in a public toilet at a supermarket once, I just got in, put my bag on the hook and was about to do my business, and then I heard this impatient knock on the door. For goodness’ sake, woman, I just got in there. And again, a few seconds later. Well, you knocking on the door frantically ain’t gonna get me going any faster!

12. The one who cuts the line

There is a line here, lady, so get to the back and start lining up. Don’t just jump in on the next available stall. We all need to go, unless you are in an absolute need to go then I don’t see why you get to cut the line.

There are many other reasons why I hate the public toilet, but the list would be very long if I keep writing them.

Care to share your love/hate stories about the public toilet? Be my guest :)

-Fi

 

DETOX day 10

Finally! I could not wait until tomorrow! As I was cooking dinner last night there was that glint of disappointmen that I’d still have to eat the same thing tonight. There were other food in my pantry waiting to be eaten, I just wanted to eat something else! I wasn’t too thrilled either that I’d still have 3 more days of reverse diet before I could get back to “normal”. Well, by normal, it was still restricted, but it’s the closest thing to my actual normal diet.

I have been told by a few people that detox was a waste of time and money, while some others told me that it was great. Well, I’m siding with neither of them. Apart from thinking that it’s ridiculously strict, I do find the light on detoxing. The detox had given me good habit, before detox I haven’t been having much junk food, but since the detox, I don’t think I’d even think about having junk food. I’ll try my best to eat better, but I can’t promise I’d cook more.

 

DETOX day 9

Things were easier, but I’m not saying it was easy. I twas still moody and angry, and quite frankly sick of eating the same thing over and over again. I want to be able to eat what’s available, and not have to do groceries almost on daily basis. Sometimes twice a day, even. I don’t have transport and the closest grocery store closes early, other supermarkets were too far away to carry heavy load (not to mention that I want to avoid hurting my back too!). So I can’t wait until Saturday, I’ve had my baking recipe books out and started planning what I wanted to bake as soon as I’m off the detox. Of course I won’t binge all at once, but I want to bake…

 

DETOX day 8

This is my 2nd day using rice milk instead of almond milk, it was actually a coincidence, I didn’t have almond milk and at early hours in the morning only supermarkets are open, and they don’t sell almond milk there, so I settled with rice milk. My first impression was that it made my protein drink much more tolerable, and so after work I set out to the supermarket and bought stock of rice milk to see me through the rest of the detox, but today I was feeling the difference. I was more alert and I could keep going longer before I needed a snack than when I was on the almond milk. That’s good news. Still doesn’t make me happy being in this detox.

 

DETOX day 7

I now have had it with my detox… today I made mistakes at work that aren’t usually mine.Not because I have OCD, but because the action of checking and re-checking is something that needs to be done. Granted, it’s human error, but still.These mistakes were so simple and so little, but takes hours up to a day to fix it. This is not on! I couldn’t focus, I couldn’t concentrate, all I could think about was food no matter how much I fed myself. I have checked and re-checked the project dozens of times, but I didn’t pick up the mistakes until it was on the final product, so after the first mistake I re-did it, the first mistake was because of language barrier though. But after I’ve done it, the second mistake was a mistake that I normally would not miss.

So yes, I am still a little pissed off, but at least I’m feeling much better than the days before. Maybe I’m finally getting used to this diet, or perhaps I may have found food that suits me best for this type of diet.